Christine Sommer, a dear friend of mine, sent me a text the other day.
R u more committed to ur dreams or more committed to ur fears?
I couldn’t honestly answer the question, so I told her I’ll have to meditate on it.
Now, I know what I would’ve like the answer to be, but I also knew, that in all honesty, I couldn’t say that I was more committed to my dreams. But, at the same time, I knew I didn’t want to be committed to my fears either.
So, I meditated on it. I pondered upon the question, actually, I pondered upon my dilemma of why I couldn’t unequivocally say that I was committed to my dreams.
You see, the beauty of her question was that she didn’t ask which one I was committed to. What she asked was which one I was more committed to. We are all driven alike by our dreams and our fears. The question is which one is dominant? Which one has a stronger hold of our thoughts, and therefore on our actions? Where is our commitment?
I would be lying to myself, and everyone else, if I didn’t acknowledge the fact that up until now the dominant and driving force has been my fears, and that’s why I am not as successful as I know I can be, as successful as I am capable of.
In the past several months, especially since starting this blog, I know I have come face to face with many of my fears and overcome a good number of them. But, I also know that there are still some lurking in the back of my mind ready to pounce on me at the most unsuspecting moment.
At the same time, I have crystallized many of my dreams as well, instead of having them as wishful thinking. As a result, I have made some amazing progress and manifestations. So, I know I am getting more committed to my dreams and less committed to my fears than I have been in the past.
Yet the question remains as to where does the balance tip at the moment. Which one am I more committed to right now?
I wonder why don’t I just make a decision to commit to my dreams, since that’s what I want? But the fact, that I am hesitating, tells me that there are fears that I have not faced or overcome yet.
How do I find and overcome them?
My recent experiences tell me that whenever I committed to my dreams, that is, whenever I took action in accordance to the desired outcome, my confidence was heightened, the fears subsided, and I made progress toward the fulfillment of my dreams.
When give in to my fears, I avoid taking any action; and therefore no progress made. Although, sometimes, taking action brings me face to face with my fears, I’ve realized, that if I stay connected and committed to my dreams, I can overcome the fears and move forward.
Fear paralyzes action; and without action there is no progress, no results, no dreams fulfilled.
So, what it boils down to is this:
I can act like a zombie and let my fears commit me to a life of mediocrity and despair as usual
OR
I can choose to live consciously, and commit to my dreams and a life of fun and fulfillment.
I can either let the fear of the unknown cripple me, or allow the excitement of discovery to let me come alive. They both feel the same in the body, because, both fear and excitement release the same chemical into my veins. The key is to learn to discern between the twain.
I am tipping the balance toward my dreams.
Thanks for asking, Chris!


I must agree…in the times you are more committed to your dreams and success, you are UNSTOPPABLE and magnificient….and then the times when you entertain your fears…I wonder…”What happened to Rasheed? Where is he? This is not the Rasheed I know.”
Thanks for the kinds words, Chris.
What this means is that I have been able to keep my insecure side from the public eyes. But in doing so, I have denied myself help when I needed. I am just now facing the truth and making adjustments.
Thank you for inspiring me.
Rasheed
Fear can be a good thing sometimes. It’s when you know that if you don’t do something, you’ll have a bad result. Example, lose weight or have a heart attack. Fear is good when it causes us to take positive steps.
However, in general we fear too much leading to depression and not fulfilling our goals.
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hi Gordie,
You are so true. I got to the point where I realized that if I didn’t do something different, I am going to be in a big mess. I am taking action now.
Rasheed
Getting naked again, huh? Good for you.
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